You Are the Expert on You: Honor Inner Knowing & Take Radical Responsibility
- Dr. Kate Flynn
- Feb 27
- 4 min read
Two years ago, I made a decision that went against everything my intuition was telling me. A friend recommended a realtor, and despite my immediate no, I overrode that response. I convinced myself it made sense to work with this person. I ignored my hesitation, moved forward… and, unsurprisingly, it led to one unpleasant experience after another.
At first, I was justifiably angry—angry at the realtor for their involvement, at the owner for their decisions, and at the entire situation for being such a mess.
And then, the lightbulb went off.
💡 I did this.
I wasn’t a victim. I had made the decision. I had overrode my own knowing.
And the moment I saw that, I made a vow: Never again.
That moment shifted everything. It wasn’t just a lesson—it was an embodiment of my authority. Knowing my truth became the way I chose to live.
The Root of Disempowerment
How often do we let external pressure, fear of missing out, or the illusion of expertise convince us to ignore our own inner knowing?
🔹 A doctor tells you to take a medication, and even though your body hesitates, you do it anyway.
🔹 A mechanic says your car needs an expensive repair, and instead of questioning it, you just say yes.
🔹 A healer or coach gives you a practice that doesn’t feel right, but you force yourself through it.
We override our instincts and move forward with what we’re told… and then, when things go wrong, we get angry. We blame the expert. We let ourselves off the hook.
But the truth? We gave our power away before things ever went wrong.
This is the cycle that keeps us disempowered. And the only way to break it is to start trusting ourselves again.
Step 1: Stop Looking at Advice as a Directive
Many of us take in advice like it’s a statement rather than a question.
👩⚕️ Doctor says you need surgery→ You assume they’re right.
🛠 Mechanic says your car needs a repair→ You assume they’re right.
🔮 Healer says you need deep energy work→ You assume they’re right.
Instead, what if you reframed everything as a question?
💡 Is this true for me?
💡 Does this feel aligned?
💡 What does my body say?
If you can reframe these things for yourself, great—but if not, get help. Your mechanic, doctor, or coach may not be available to guide you through your own knowing, but a trusted friend might. Or, if you need a neutral approach, use ChatGPT or a journaling practice to guide yourself through it.
👉 Try this: "Here’s my situation. Ask me 10–15 yes/no questions to help me feel into my response." Or: "Give me one open-ended question that helps me explore this decision."
Step 2: Turn Down External Noise and Turn Up Your Inner Voice
Every time you automatically trust someone else’s answer, you turn the volume down on your own inner voice. The way back? Turn down their volume, and yours will naturally get louder.
Instead of immediately acting on advice, pause.
How does committing to this feel in my body?
What does taking the first step in this direction feel like?
Does this align with the life I actually want?
If your first instinct isn’t always correct (for example, if you have emotional authority in Human Design and need time to let your wave settle), don’t rush. Sit with it.
Feel into whether or not you have all the information you need to make the best decision.
If you’re someone with instant gut knowing (Sacral authority), trust your first response before your mind tries to talk you out of it.
Step 3: Listen Act and Own Your Decisions
You won’t get it right 100% of the time. And that’s okay. But when you take full responsibility for your choices, you no longer feel the need to blame.
✔ If something works out? You own that success.✔ If something doesn’t? You learn from it and adjust.
And when you take this approach long enough, you start creating a life you’re actually in love with.
This is exactly what I teach inside How to Human.
Because the entire purpose of this work is to guide you back to yourself. To create a home there if there isn’t one. To create the space for you to turn into your own voice and follow its instruction. The result? You embody the version of yourself you came here to be—and fall wildly in love with your life. The side effect? Radical healing on every level.
If you’re ready to start listening, How To Human is here for you.
Final Thought: If You’re Tired of Being Misled—Try a Different Approach
We all have experiences we want to share, advice we want to give, and opinions on what others should do. But before taking in anyone else’s advice, ask yourself:
❓ Has listening to others over myself actually worked for me?
If not… maybe it’s time to try something different.
Reach out if you’re ready to reclaim your authority.
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