What Have You Decided Can't Be Changed?

I used to believe I was destined to be a flat-bottomed girl. No matter how much I trained—how heavy I lifted or how many squats I did—nothing changed. I chalked it up to genetics and gave up trying.

I trained for strength, not shape, and secretly wanted to throat punch anyone who said, “Have you tried squatting?”

It wasn’t that I hadn’t tried. It’s that I had… and it didn’t work.

So, I labeled it unchangeable.

Then, earlier this year, I started working with a new trainer—someone who’d gone from a barely-there booty to a peach. She looked me in the eye and said, “You can grow one too.”

I didn’t fully believe her, but I was willing to try something different. And five months later… I'm not quite a Big Booty Judy, but no one’s calling me double-back anymore.

Turns out my glutes just needed to be stressed in the right ways. They responded. They grew. And it hit me:

Maybe what we call genetics, or any story we accept as "the way it is," is just that...a story. Built on incomplete data.

It’s easy to assume something can’t change when you haven’t seen it change yet. Or when the people you’ve turned to for help don’t know how to support it. Or when the “experts” label it unchangeable simply because they can’t explain it.

What Have You Been Told Can’t Be Changed?

Is it something physical?

Maybe a doctor told you you’re “bone on bone” and arthritis is inevitable. That you’ll need a knee replacement or a hip replacement “eventually.” That this pain is just “your new normal.”

When in reality… What they’re really saying is: “We don’t know how to help you, and we’re not going to try anything new.”

But other people are finding ways to thrive. People who were told “this is it” are walking pain-free with a combination of PT, mobility training, better foot mechanics, and nervous system recalibration.

Or maybe what you’ve labeled unchangeable isn’t physical at all.

Maybe it’s a relationship. Or your job. Or the way your life looks.

Maybe you’ve convinced yourself this is just how it is—this is how you’re wired or your lot in life. Maybe you’ve resigned yourself to never feeling strong, or supported, or fully alive in your body.

But what if… The problem isn’t the thing. The problem is believing it can’t be changed.

What if you started saying:

“Just because I haven’t figured it out yet doesn't mean it can be done.”

“Maybe there is another way—one I haven’t found?”

We make peace with things too early. We accept limitations that were never ours. We hold back our own transformation because we’re afraid to look foolish for believing in something more.

But change often begins the moment you say: “I don’t know how this is going to happen… but I’m open to finding out.”

So I’ll leave you with this:

What belief have you accepted as fact—about your body, your health, your life—that’s actually up for negotiation? And what might shift if you opened the door to a new possibility?

You might just be a few hip thrusts away from a whole new reality.